Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life
(at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.
We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be
late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may
cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.
The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
Let's use an example:
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks
over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control
over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be
determined by how you react.
**You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup
over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your
spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of
the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs & change
your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy
crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school.
She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.
Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed
limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away,
you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without
saying goodbye.
After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your
briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to
get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you
arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your
spouse and daughter.
**Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have
a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
**The answer is " D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
**Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry.
You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next
time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt
and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the
window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves.
You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss
comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended
different.
**Why? Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens.
The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge.
Let the attack roll off like water on glass.
You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly
and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing
a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you
know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the
results. You will lose nothing if you try it.
The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this
principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from
undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache.
We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
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Another 90/10 principle:
A chinese friend once told me that:
"friend, if you earn one peso spend only ten (10) centavo.
Keep the ninety (90) centavo..."
I repied: " Ahhh!... so that was it?"
"I thought Spend 90 keep the ten cents could make me richer"
Actually I spend more than I earned, -thru lending.
